One big part of recovering from a addiction to alcohol or drugs is to attempt to make amends for the past mistakes, guilt, embarrassment, shame or harm that you caused as a result of your active addiction to substances.
However, we often don’t even realise that our behaviour is harmful or negative toward ourselves or others until we enter recovery. As our mind becomes clearer once again, we begin to see the scale of damage that we’ve caused to ourselves, as well as all of the relationships we damaged with family, friends, colleagues, employers and others.
This article will help guide you through the process of making amends with others, working fellowships steps 8 & 9 and overcoming the damage that’s been done as a direct result of your substance use.
When someone has a drug or alcohol addiction, substance use often becomes a ritual of its own. There might be a time of day or location where they typically use or drink, or they might always perform a certain routine before using or drinking. These behavioural patterns then become strongly ingrained over the course of a person’s life in active addiction.
Being able to recognise these rituals and knowing how to change and overcome them is a really important skill to be able to use if you want a long lasting, happy recovery journey.
They aren’t hard or complicated, but understanding them, recognising them and doing something about them by making little changes repetitively is the key to making these new, healthier changes to stick.