Many people with addictions are put off getting help because they have heard that there is a spiritual or higher power element to recovery, and they do not feel that they can function within a spiritual framework.
Spirituality and addiction recovery sometimes seem to go hand in hand. The 12-step/fellowship movement, with its focus on a higher power, can be particularly challenging for some individuals.
In this article, we look at how spirituality fits into recovery and what a higher power may look like to you if you’re an atheist…
We thought we’d share this small true story with you as an example of the types of traumas and daily struggles that most children of addicted parent(s) experience on a daily basis, often multiple times a day, each and every day.
Here is the final article in our mini-series, looking at the outcome of adults who have experienced living with a parent or parents who were chronically using drugs, binge drinking alcohol or had addictions to both. With their testimony, those currently going through a similar situation may benefit from the experience of those who’ve lived with a parent(s) as addicts before.
There are many adults among us, many of whom you might not recognise with intimate knowledge of what it’s like to grow up with an addicted parent.
Sadly, there are also many people who love those adults and don’t know what it is like to have become an adult who was once a child raised amongst chaos, instability, fear, shame, embarrassment, frustration and even anger.
For many of us, our entire childhood was swathed in dysfunction. As development goes, the severe dysfunction of our childhood probably resulted in severely delayed or stunted emotional, mental, educational, financial and even physical growth in certain cases.
This article is compiled by combining the most commonly felt issues that they’ve experienced when they were younger and had a parent, parents or guardians who were misusing drugs, binging on alcohol and developing an addiction to drugs and alcohol.
Children living in homes where there is parental substance use or addiction can find life difficult, unpredictable, upsetting and confusing just to list a few examples. Sometimes they may even believe the alcohol or drug use is their fault.
That’s why purposefully preparing to speak to your kids, knowing what to say and having as much information about substance use and addiction as possible provides them with the reassurance and information they need as they walk along your recovery journey with you side by side.
This article hopes to help you better prepare and inform you about what’s happened to lead you upto this point, what’s going to happen and what’s to expect when you enter recovery and how you can mutually support each other going forward to ensure that you make the most of this vitally needed discussion.
So you’ve begun to get the cravings under control and are starting to rebuild your life. You’re changing habits, changing your thinking and feeling hopeful about the future.
As you begin to find more enjoyment throughout your days, you might also be thinking it would be nice to have someone to share all these beautiful things with.
But before you jump head first into dating or a relationship, you need to ask yourself if you’re really ready for dating in recovery?
The 5 questions in this article will give you an idea about the things to consider and the things to avoid when it comes to dating or relationships while in your lifelong recovery journey.
Studies tell us that the children of alcohol addicts and drug users are eight times more likely to become addicts than the children of clean and sober parents.
So why do the sons and daughters of addicts experience a significantly higher likelihood of developing their own addiction later on in life?
One could argue that close proximity to substance use throughout the child’s childhood gives them the idea that experimenting with using or drinking, relying upon substances to manage stress or negative feelings or using/drinking to satisfy a physical and mental dependency is “okay” or “normal”.
We discuss this issue in more detail, along with ways to help manage and overcome this issue. This article is part of our mini-series, looking at the effects substance use and addiction play in educating our children to reduce the amount of people who develop addictions and avoid recreationally using drugs and binge drinking later on in life.
When someone has a drug or alcohol addiction, substance use often becomes a ritual of its own. There might be a time of day or location where they typically use or drink, or they might always perform a certain routine before using or drinking. These behavioural patterns then become strongly ingrained over the course of a person’s life in active addiction.
Being able to recognise these rituals and knowing how to change and overcome them is a really important skill to be able to use if you want a long lasting, happy recovery journey.
They aren’t hard or complicated, but understanding them, recognising them and doing something about them by making little changes repetitively is the key to making these new, healthier changes to stick.
Therapies such as counselling, hypnotherapy, EMDR, regression therapies, marriage counselling, anger management and group/family therapies among others are designed to help you move past the point you currently find yourself in, where you are using substances to mask the emotional pain that you experienced and as a protective measure, your body tells you to “forget” about the issue as it’s still emotionally painful to think or speak about so this protective measure can be why you find yourself turning to substances to cope.
Better understanding the benefits of therapy and why you should consider undergoing therapy is going to be a really important decision when it comes to your recovery and moving on from past traumas which may hold you back or cause you to relapse in the future.
Sometimes it feels like society says you should be always happy and that showing your sadness is a sign of weakness. This is far from true – if you were to hold in all your sadness or anger you would explode!
Ignoring your feelings and thoughts may help you to manage in the short-term but in the long run, it isn’t healthy or productive for your mental health, physical health or your recovery.
Knowing how and when to employ various positive coping strategies is going to be your best ally when it comes to experiencing your thoughts and feelings in a healthy and constructive way.
The definition of personal responsibility is the idea that human beings choose, instigate or otherwise cause their own actions. A corollary idea is that because we cause our actions, we can be held morally accountable or legally liable.
There are also various types of responsibility. Some are obvious types and others that are more subtle to identify.
In this article, we look at the various models and common arguments for both sides of the “argument” that are used to understand the role accountability and responsibility plays in active using or drinking, those in recovery and the family and friends of those afflicted by addictions.